“Feeling Stumped? Here are 20 of the 46 zillion ways to create pleasure in your life -Wrap yourself in a soft blanket -Take a warm bath -Cuddle something small and furry, or large and furry, or medium-sized and feathery or, well, you get the idea -Find something smooth and cool, like a marble or a stone, and rub it. -Lie down somewhere and listen to your favorite music -Watch videos of baby animals -Hug someone you love -Cook/bake/grill something that smells and tastes delicious -Eat something sweet -Masturbate -Watch or read something that makes you laugh -Get a massage -Make S'mores -Find a garden or park and smell the flowers -Put on a piece of clothing that feels great on your skin -Trigger a happy scent memory, like your partner’s deodorant or your parent’s cookies -Drink a warm beverage like tea, coffee, or cocoa -Do something active that is more pleasant than painful; swimming, hiking, riding a bike, yoga or just a bunch of slow stretching -Do something nice for your skin, like washing your face, using a face mask, or giving yourself a rub down with a sugar scrub. -Order your favorite take-out and watch movies or TV shows that make you happy.”
Feeling stressed, burnt, or just plain “blah” right now? Here are some ideas on how to counteract those feelings and bring a little pleasure back to your day.
bro, a lot of men NEED to go to therapy not just for their own sake but for the sake of every person they have power over in their lives
if you are a grown ass adult man and you refuse to handle your personal issues that directly negatively impact the people around in varying degrees of harm, even leading up to abuse, that’s YOUR responsibility to fix. no one is saying abusive men dont have ‘reasons’ to be the way they are, but that doesnt change the fact that no one who isnt them can fix their shit
the most succinct explanation of why some lesbians use they/them or he/him pronouns is that pronouns are very much like names, in that they are culturally established signifiers we use to refer to someone else, and almost always those signifiers are gendered.
You’ll see a lot of lesbians start to go by androgynous or masculine names (or nicknames) to feel more comfortable. Sam, Pat, Chris, Jay, Moe, etc. are all really common chosen names among lesbians for that reason.
I also knew an older butch– my parents’ age– who went by Otter (& her femme partner went by Kitty) because they decided to just depart from standard names entirely– and I see younger lesbians using neo-pronouns in very similar ways for very similar reasons.
A lesbian who was raised with the name Christina and the pronouns she/her/hers deciding he’s more comfortable with the name Chris and he/him/his pronouns to reflect his complex relationship to womanhood is not a huge confusing leap, it’s pretty normal depending on what circles you’re in.
Gender is complex, and gender nonconforming lesbians, butches, and femmes have often navigated gender on their own terms to find ways of being comfortable in their bodies, relationships, and lives.
is ppl’s go-to insult towards lesbians still them mocking us over the fact a man will never love us like bitch i dont want men to even look at me let alone love me like the more a man doesn’t acknowledge my existence the better
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